I hope everyone remembers to take a few moments tomorrow and remember why we get together with loved ones and what we are truly thankful for in our lives. So when you are hustling and bustling trying to get everything cooked or put together, remember why you’re doing it and just enjoy the day!
Tip: One thing I did to make things go a little smoother in the morning…I measured out all of my ingredients that I will need for the 3 dishes I am making and I have everything separated. Yep, it’s all measured out in containers and the dishes (spoons, measuring cups, etc.) that I had to use to do this are already all washed. It may still be a hectic day but at least the cooking part will go easier. Enjoy your turkey day and enjoy each other most of all!
This was said to me a couple of times over the past 2 weeks, both by women, after a relationship ended. It’s almost like when they were in the relationship they were blinded by the negativity or forgot how to think for themselves. I must admit, I’ve been there before and said those words too. But why? What is it about being in a relationship that keeps you from seeing what is going on? One of my friends even stated that now that the relationship was over they could now focus on themselves. Again I ask, what is it about certain relationships that prevents a person from continuing to grow individually? I understand that once we get into a serious relationship that we turn away from certain things and put focus onto the relationship, as I think we should, to a certain degree. But to give up your individual goals and dreams that you wholeheartedly desire, seems wrong to me. It seems like if anyone is giving up such a huge piece of themselves in a relationship it will only lead to regret and resentment. “I would be a CEO or Manager by now if I didn’t get married or if I had more time to myself”, “I can finally go back to school now that this relationship is over”.
My thoughts are this: there are plenty of opportunities to find your Mr or Mrs Right that will still allow you to fulfill your dreams! Why are people (men and women) giving up such a huge part of themselves for a relationship that will most likely end with resentment and regret? If you have certain goals prior to the start of a relationship, that should be discussed upfront. In fact, your goals and desires should always be discussed in a relationship! You should be making sure that you are with someone who is supportive of your dreams and make sure that you are willing to do the same. It took a couple of trial and errors for me personally, but I finally found my rock and my #1 supporter. Make sure you have yours and don’t settle for anything less!
Someone asked me this question in almost a joking manner a few days ago. I started to laugh it off but then I started to really think about what she said to me. Am I where I want to be in my life right now? In some areas yes, I can’t really complain. I have a great family and a super supportive circle around me, I have a good job, making good money, and with good benefits. Is there always room for things to get better? Sure! I have been in school for my Master’s degree for a year now, so the end will be coming soon, at least for that chapter…(I plan on continuing on after my Master’s). Things are going really well with my boyfriend and our kids, and we are making plans to move forward together (many more posts on this are to come 😉 ). My job, well, I don’t plan on retiring from where I am, but it has certainly supported me while going to school, so I can’t complain there. I don’t see my job really changing too much over the next year, so I’m keeping my eyes open for health (physical and mental) related things to come my way. I actually am looking into a new opportunity to embark on starting the first of the year. If it turns out to be a fit for me, you will certainly hear about it!
My inner peace including reaching out to other moms (via my blog for a perfect example) took a bit of a back burner over the past several months. I guess that’s where I can answer, no, I’m not “living the dream”. Is it easy to get back? Absolutely, after all, like they say (whoever “they” are), taking the first step is always the hardest. So I guess this post, the first in several months, can be considered my first step and I’m happy to take it! Writing this blog has always felt natural to me, and while it’s a shame that I took some time away from it, I fully believe in everything happening for a reason. So, I choose to accept that and move on.
So I pose this same question to you, are you living your dream?